
I used to think that there is nothing else like a handwritten letter or card. I’ve mentioned before that my grandma writes to me weekly. I save all of the cards and letters I receive from friends and family. I always have, and every now and then, it is fun going through a box of them. Pete and I have a friend, Dan, who always sends postcards. He will even do so to let someone know his flight information. My love for personal notes began when my parents would send a napkin note in my school lunch, and they always have written special messages in my birthday cards. Now, with e-mail, we can archive special messages or just leave them in our inbox. When Pete and I were engaged and living across the country from each other, I printed out all of his e-mails, and I still have them in a folder. He also is a card writer. When we moved to Italy, my mom sent postcards that featured different scenes from my hometown. I like having the Erie Canal scene on our refrigerator. Pete’s parents send out a weekly letter via e-mail, and I always look forward to it. They keep us connected to family news. My dad and I e-mail throughout the week, and my mom uses e-mail to send a note about once a week. Pete and I keep in touch with friends through e-mail as well, but facebook is our main medium. I love that I am now in touch with people from so many different chapters in my life, and the ease of sharing photos is nice. This is the first year I’ve had a blog, and I am enjoying the comments from people I know and people new to me in the blogging community. This is also the first year I’ve embraced Skype. Through Skype, I have had work meetings related to my teaching job in Pittsburgh, and I can call family on their phones, not just through another computer. So now, I am plugged in extensively: cell phone, Skype, e-mail, facebook, and an old-fashioned mailbox. And, if you believe, I think we can just send each other a thinking of you in our hearts. I get those messages too, and I send a lot of them.
You just can’t compare these ways to reach each other. You could argue that sitting down and writing a letter by hand requires more focussed attention, and it is heartwarming to see a loved one’s handwriting, but I am just as appreciative of seeing an electronic message. I do hate the advertising component of facebook and having to dodge the sneaky traps of getting more and more information from us. But, I look at it this way: I have many choices for how I want to communicate. I send birthday cards and holiday notes through the post office. I can send a private message to someone, and I can be part of a community saying “Hi!” and “What’s new?” through facebook and blogging. And through Skype, I can have a conversation with video and sound.
There is a problem, however. The post office delivers once a day, Monday through Saturday. Skype, e-mail, blogs, and facebook are always on, unless I turn them off. I can easily get sucked in for hours until I tell myself to get off of the couch and take a walk, read a book, do some work, or go talk with someone face to face. What am I afraid of missing if I’m not plugged in? I’m still trying to figure that out.